How to Affair-Proof Your Relationship

Just in time when I am in the midst of the biggest extramarital affairs problem, oppps. I bump into a very nice article for affair-proofing one’s relationship. And if only I can share this to that ‘superman’ and to his ‘martyr wife’ I would! They need to know this. But what I can only do is sigh. And absorb all the man’s wrath for caring so much for his wife and his family.

An affair is an extreme symptom of a relationship that has been in trouble for some time. Affairs do not happen out of the blue and rarely happen because someone is a bad person. Cheating is caused by one single factor: "Lack." In a relationship, it's a lack of love, attention, intimacy, recognition, respect, and connection that builds up over time. Eventually, this "lack" can become so painful that the person in the most pain will often act out by cheating. Because communication has broken down, the cheating person doesn't feel like they can talk to their partner, so that makes them vulnerable to cheating.

So, how do you avoid getting to this point in a relationship? Below are seven ways to avoid the "lack" and prevent a potential affair.

1. Avoid complacency.

2. Keep the lines of communication open.

3. Pay attention to your gut.

4. Find time for each other.

5. Know when it's a time of stress and pay attention to your partner even more.

6. Understand the real issues in your relationship.

7. Always remember what it was that made you fall in love with your partner.

Avoid the "lack" and affair-proof your relationship by staying conscious of yourself and your partner. Nurture each other and keep the lines of communication open.

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Fireproof your marriage

I have learned about the movie FIREPROOF from Tuesday Couch Potato meme authored by my blogger friend kikamz. I forgot who among the blogger listed Fireproof (if that blogger happens to be you please tell me so I can link you up here, thank you!) I already have long list of movies to watch, my must watch list is with me every time I go. I am planning to watch them all! Thanks TCP!

Back to Fireproof ;) There are some quotes that I love to share here that I got from the movie;

A woman is like a rose, treat her right and she will bloom.

Never leave your partner behind, especially in a fire!

Marriage is not only a contract, it is a covenant.

Husband and I had a good laugh as we see ourselves on some of the scene of the movie. I had a hard time pulling back my tears, I don’t like my sarcastic husband to see me crying over movies. He will tease me forever for doing that! But I felt a lump in my throat at the ending of the movie.. The actors and every word in the movie are remarkable. I love how they put all the teachings of God especially regarding marriage into the film.

I recommend this movie to all couples out there not only to those whose marriage are on the rocks but also to those who are head over heels in love. This is one of my favorite film of all time!