Tips to a Successful Relationship

The success of a relationship lies on how two people commit themselves to work it out. It really takes two to tango. A good relationship is a give and take rapport -- a mutual involvement. While one talks, the other listens. While the man uses his intellect, the woman manages her heart.

The world is not always as colorful as slots in USA casinos, it can be bluer than blue. No matter what challenges come its way, both must face it together. The beauty of a relationship is that you can have someone you can hold on in times of trouble, someone you can celebrate with in times of merriment.

Surely, there is no clear cut definition of a successful relationship. But what matters is how two people stand by each other through the test of time.

Cuddling Mushrooms

Last night, just like the nights before husband and I spent more than 3 hours in front of the TV cuddling while watching DVD. We were both hooked on Queen Seok Deok, a korean telenovela we can’t get enough of. So now while typing, my head is swirling and my eyes can’t hold it any longer – give me time to sleep! LOL

Husband is the PDA type. He is very showy. When he is drunk he is times 100 the PDA type. We love to cuddle while watching movies. We love to cuddle at the bus, we look like iw at times, hahah. We love to cuddle at night.. And needless to say our sleeping position is this:
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Before and After Marriage

I got this from a forwarded email. Read and have fun! This is really, really CUTE!

Secret Box

Here comes the hardest theme of Couple’s Corner, Ahuh! Hihih. For honesty is the best policy's sake here's my share on today's CC!

We both know how much our monthly take home pay is, how much is our accumulated debts through the years and how much our monthly expenses for the month. So getting the money on pay day is like passing through a cave – you will just bring them to where they should be – banks, groceries, bills etc. We both know that and there’s no chance you can make kupit :) LOL

We both know everything from the flings, crazy Exes, stalkers, and their NAMES. We sometimes joke on using them for our future children, lol. Seriously, yobib has been very honest on to that part and I have been too. I am not good in keeping secrets and the thing of the past is our worst fall every time we argue. We are both jealous lovers. LOL

Husband is very honest on whom among my friends he finds ok, those he doesn’t like and who he adores. So I can go out easily on friends he approves of and to those he doesn’t I have to beg. Lol hahaha. I have no qualms on his friends all of them seems nice.

Husband is very vocal. He tells me everything even if it will hurt me – he is that blunt! On our first year of marriage, I was always sulking with the way he talks, he is always brusque kasi while I am very sensitive. But later on I learned from his being frank and use them to strike him!

I fell in love to husband because I can tell him everything – as in everything - My deepest secrets, my greatest fears, my grandest dreams etc. He was and is always my shock and joy absorber. He is my secret box. And I know I am his secret box too!

How to Affair-Proof Your Relationship

Just in time when I am in the midst of the biggest extramarital affairs problem, oppps. I bump into a very nice article for affair-proofing one’s relationship. And if only I can share this to that ‘superman’ and to his ‘martyr wife’ I would! They need to know this. But what I can only do is sigh. And absorb all the man’s wrath for caring so much for his wife and his family.

An affair is an extreme symptom of a relationship that has been in trouble for some time. Affairs do not happen out of the blue and rarely happen because someone is a bad person. Cheating is caused by one single factor: "Lack." In a relationship, it's a lack of love, attention, intimacy, recognition, respect, and connection that builds up over time. Eventually, this "lack" can become so painful that the person in the most pain will often act out by cheating. Because communication has broken down, the cheating person doesn't feel like they can talk to their partner, so that makes them vulnerable to cheating.

So, how do you avoid getting to this point in a relationship? Below are seven ways to avoid the "lack" and prevent a potential affair.

1. Avoid complacency.

2. Keep the lines of communication open.

3. Pay attention to your gut.

4. Find time for each other.

5. Know when it's a time of stress and pay attention to your partner even more.

6. Understand the real issues in your relationship.

7. Always remember what it was that made you fall in love with your partner.

Avoid the "lack" and affair-proof your relationship by staying conscious of yourself and your partner. Nurture each other and keep the lines of communication open.

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Expiration Date on Marriage

I heard the news today about putting an expiration date on marriage contract. Marriage term is like 10 years and it’s up to the couple to renew it after ten years. I shared the news to husband on yahoo messenger and I can’t stop laughing when I read his reaction..

So our conversation goes like this:

ME: have you heard about the news? About a law putting an expiration date on marriage?

HIM: oo, astig noh! Parang tanga lang ang nakaisip (yes, I heard about it. Seems like some moron thought about this!)

Yes, that’s how my husband answers things. But seriously, who would have thought that someone of sane mind would advocate such law..

Have they forgotten about their wedding vows of - - for better, for worst.. in sickness and in health.. ‘TIL DEATH DO US PART?

He made me really angry

Pardon my absence pretty please. I miss CC, I miss all of you. Thanks for welcoming back! ;) hahahah. So now I have to disclose what my husband did that made me really angry.. Hmmmmm should I share a past story? This will be very humiliating on husband’s part but for the sake of CC here it is, peace daddy ha! This for CC only.. heheh

Husband usually fetches me every afternoon at work. One night, I waited and kept on calling him on his cellphone but he was not answering his phone. He texted me saying he was on his way.. He arrived at my office looking very handsome, he wore differently his jeans and polo and that was the last time he wore it that way.

So later that night, I noticed him texting like crazy. Just a bit of information, husband hates texting. But on that particular night he went out of our apartment and bought a prepaid load, he must have been texting a very important person, that’s what I thought.

So while he was away, I secretly get the number of that someone he’s texting – It was one of his guy friends number. I saw that his guy friend has two numbers saved on his cellphone, I get both numbers and saved it on my phone. The next day I called that number and learned that it was indeed his friend’s number BUT when I tried to reach the other number, a girl answered.

I was really furious at that time and I remembered how much husband asked forgiveness and promised not to ‘have dinner with girlfriends’ ever again. You don’t want to see me mad, that I have to tell you. I am really scary. So I scared that flirty girl away, that I am very, very sure! It is really hard to tame me when I am mad, it will take a loooong time to cool me down. Husband did all things to bring me back to my sane self.. And I have been sane ever since. BOW.

Celebrate Anniversaries the CHEESY way

Husband and I celebrate two very special days monthly - our monthsary as lovers (the day we officially became an item) and as a couple (the day we officially became husband and wife). So when my friend, Ate Binx asked me to blog some tips on how to celebrate anniversary the non-cheesy way I declined. I told her am sooo cheesssy.. ;)

So here are my cheesy tips – those that husband and I already did and those that I am looking forward of doing.. hahah

1st year: Bonding galore

Husband isn’t into books, but we spent our first year anniversary cuddling while reading our books we bought as gifts for each other. We dined at our favorite restaurant and spent the whole day together..

2nd year: Romantic Getaway

Visit Coron, this is so recommended for couples who like some rest and recreation. Almost all the white sand beaches are secluded, you can swim, snorkel together and have all the fun under the sun, stars and the moon.. I highly recommend the cottage we stayed in – visit coron and stay at Krystal Lodge! You won’t regret it..

Oh well, the ff are my random thoughts on how cheesy I am when celebrating anniversaries well some are petty but sweet while some are grand..

1. Leave a love note on his pocket or to any secret place on the day of your anniversary or paste it somewhere he goes first thing in the morning.

2. Wake him up at 12AM, greet him and kiss him. Am sure this will lead to something you both love to do. ;)

3. Surprise him by sending roses at his work or wherever he may be. This is an ultimate ‘cheesy’ thing for men no matter how much masculine they are! Let the flowers do the talking..

4. Go to a romantic place like Tagaytay and spend the day holding hands while strolling. If you can stay overnight on a cottage, the better! Prepare him breakfast in bed. Ultimate cheesiness. ;)

5. Call him or email him you want to go out for a date. If you can make reservation for a romantic candlelight dinner, do it! Or eat on your fave restaurant or fast food chain. The place would not matter anyway..

6. Watch romantic movie together, go to a bar or somewhere secluded where you can talk or just stare at one another

7. Take another honeymoon to a destination that you both wanted to visit.. or just check into a hotel nearby.. ;)

8. Stay at home, cook his favorite food, light candles – create a very romantic atmosphere. Share your thoughts, discuss anything you want to. Tease him while talking..

9. Go on a picnic. Pack your picnic hamper and bring all your favorite foods. Communicate while feasting on the food. Stare, kiss, cuddle and hug each other. Or talk about the old times when you first met

10. Call him and confess how much you love him. Email him or talk deliciously on chatrooms. Flirt with him like there’s no more tomorrow.

Choose on how much you are willing to commemorate the high and low times you conquered with your partner! Just don’t forget to CELEBRATE! Enjoy and cherish each other’s company. A grand date or you simple you-and-me time together could do wonder to make your anniversary more memorable!

Kiss and Make up

I miss Couple’s Corner last week and I won’t miss this week’s theme. But before anything else, I have to voice this out! It is so hard without internet connection, I feel so robotic not being with my blogs. My blogging life has been so dull for two weeks now, lol! I miss blogging and I miss my blogging friends, whew. Now I feel better, thank you very much!

Now back to CC. For Kiss and Make up with husband, I have to say that I am very lucky to have a very masungit husband who ALWAYS gives in whenever I am sulking. Sulking is my middle name by the way. And Sungit is my husband’s given name! Aside from being very thrifty, he is very masungit!! Haha (this is my blog, sorry baby!! I write what I want to write! Lol)

Luckily, husband knows how to handle my tantrums. Whenever I am mad at him he would joke around and would make me smile. But if I am really really angry, he lets me be. He keeps his distance or else he will get hurt, LOL. When he is angry, I do my ‘taming’ by kissing him all over his face, that trick always works! But when he does that when am angry he would be flying over the ceiling.. I am scary when angry BUT he will scare the hell out of you when he is really really angry.

On our first year of marriage, we would spend sleepless nights talking and voicing out our grudges to each other, after all is said and done we would sleep like nothing happened, back into each other’s loving arms. And we still do that and will do that til forever.. :) hahah

The first year

Yobib and I were already living together in an apartment in manila before our wedding but still there were a lot of adjustments, bumps and rough paths we had gone through for the first year of our married life. Yobib’s dad and my mother were confined to a hospital a month after our wedding. I was 7 months pregnant with yena at that time. There were lots of problems on the first 30 days, in terms of finances. But we made it through.

We had the worst fight on our first Christmas as husband and wife. I was 8 months pregnant when I ran away from their home and spent Christmas alone and crying. It wasn’t nice remembering that but now I smiled recalling how much of a fool I was. I don’t talk when angry while he talks a lot when mad. After few months of adjustments, we learned to communicate a lot. When Yena was born on January everything just fell into right places. We fight a little, laugh and cried with our foolishness and strive hard to be a blessing to each other.

8 months after the wedding, we have a 6 months old Yena :)

And just one thing, from the day we became a couple, husband gave the golden rule and that is to attend the mass and hear the word of God every sunday. He doesn't look religious i know, but he is really prayerful! It would be a hard life without God at the center of our lives, and I know and we try hard to make God the center of our union and our family..

I love you this much, I do!

October 26, 2007, The day I said I do the man that I love was the day I hurt my mother the most..

Me, Yobib and his family

My decision to marry yobib was against my families wish. But marrying him was my ultimate wish and it’s the best decision I had ever made in my entire life. I know I hurt my mother but I know sooner than soon my family will accept my decision no matter how much they refuse it.

Sunny friday on that month of October (full moon to be exact!), I went to the municipal hall without my parents or any of my family member by my side. Yobib was with his parents and eldest brother. We have one set of godparents to witness our union. I remember yobib’s eldest sister, yobib’s aunt and their neighbors’ are crying, they pity me so much. I would be marrying him without my family’s support. It always brings tears to my eyes remembering how I felt forsaken by my family on my wedding day but I can’t blame them.

Our godparents

So at 10am we were wed solemnly at Victoria’s Court. The judge that wed us was Atty Victoria by the way, that’s what her court was called by her employees. After that less than 30 minutes ritual we went to Balinsasayaw for our wedding reception.. The next day was the drink all you can session with some of our friends and yobib’s family and relatives..

I went home only to cry, my mother disown me for marrying Yobib. But after all has been said and done, my mother warmed up as the days pass by and now the atmosphere between her and Yobib has changed a lot for the better..

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For better or for worst

In sickness and in health..

Til death do us part.

Even unmarried people memorize that! But when said on your wedding day in front of all in attendance and most of all God as witnesses, do we really mean those words?

I mean, my husband isn’t perfect and neither do i. I throw fits then and there, he would forgive me, sometimes say sorry even when I was the one at fault. Being a good wife is what I dream every now and then but can I be a good wife when tending our very own kitchen I fail? Alright, that’s shallow.

You love your husband on your glory days together, but when he shows his temper, ridicule you in public and brought you humiliation, do you still love him? I might call it my worst this morning but I know he would not do that if I only understood. That was just a petty misunderstanding but the scar it left my heart will take time to heal..

But loving him in spite and despite of all that transpired this morning is the WORST I am referring to on “for better or for worst” piece. So if i would not be following that piece and leave because of that "worst" am referring too, i only choose a life that is "for better" it would have been the best choice but is it really the best?

Am always glad i watched, FIREPROOF. I would never choose to leave. I would never leave my partner behind, especially in a fire!

Even if there are no more 'for better" and what life only offers is 'worst'.



Photos from fotosearch

Fireproof your marriage

I have learned about the movie FIREPROOF from Tuesday Couch Potato meme authored by my blogger friend kikamz. I forgot who among the blogger listed Fireproof (if that blogger happens to be you please tell me so I can link you up here, thank you!) I already have long list of movies to watch, my must watch list is with me every time I go. I am planning to watch them all! Thanks TCP!

Back to Fireproof ;) There are some quotes that I love to share here that I got from the movie;

A woman is like a rose, treat her right and she will bloom.

Never leave your partner behind, especially in a fire!

Marriage is not only a contract, it is a covenant.

Husband and I had a good laugh as we see ourselves on some of the scene of the movie. I had a hard time pulling back my tears, I don’t like my sarcastic husband to see me crying over movies. He will tease me forever for doing that! But I felt a lump in my throat at the ending of the movie.. The actors and every word in the movie are remarkable. I love how they put all the teachings of God especially regarding marriage into the film.

I recommend this movie to all couples out there not only to those whose marriage are on the rocks but also to those who are head over heels in love. This is one of my favorite film of all time!

Who's doing the Math?

Today, 26th of August, I planned on waking up husband at 12am, kiss him and greet him: happy 34th month wedding anniversary. Before i speak a thing he suddenly woke up, kissed me and whispered 'happy 22 months!'

22 months? how come i am counting 34 already?! of course i was laughing to myself and started counting again. We got married Oct 26, 2007, how could i possibly think we are already celebrating our 34th month?! am not good in math, alright! :)

Anyways, i know we will get to 34th month and to countless months together but am still happy husband never forgets to do his part of making me feel extra special on two days of each month.

His effort on greeting me on his blog is so much for a gift! :) babaw ko talaga! hahaha

And i am always thankful i said yes to the man who always makes me happy, sad, mad and insane!

Happy 22nd! I love you more baby!

photo from fotosearch

Sealed with a Kiss!

Husband and I love to talk. We have our own quiet time but we always find each other chit chatting about everything under the sun. What makes me more excited about our every conversation is what comes after it. The kiss. We sealed our talk with a smack. After all piece is said before going to bed at night, we sealed it with a kiss.

Just this morning, when i was acting up that i cannot walk anymore because of hunger i told husband to bring me to jollibee. I have been craving for their breakfast steak :) If you know how thrifty my husband is, eating out on an ordinary day is a Big NO NO! But for every requests i know he would always give in, he loves me that much! :)

Talking about politics and showbiz are my forte, while him sports. What pulled me to ending our endless tete-a-tete this morning is the kiss! I get back to work with a full stomach and a wide smile on my face. It was a lovely breakfast, sealed with a kiss!

Photo from here.

How to Keep Your Marriage Alive

From a forwarded email. Hope this one helps you!:)

~ Step 1

Turn your marriage into a teenage love fest
Do some of the same things you did when you first fell in love
Don't get too busy for each other
Communicate, communicate, communicate
Show lots of affection publicly (hold hands, kiss, stare in each other's eyes)

~ Step 2

Set weeknight dates and keep your promise to go on those dates
Go to a drive-in theatre and make out like teenagers
Write love letters and leave in different secret places
Call each other every day and confess your love for each other
Meet once a week for lunch

~ Step 3

Be spontaneous. Leave work on your lunch time and meet at your house or a hotel and make love
Go on a weekend vacation. Just get in your car and drive, then check into a hotel and spend the whole weekend in bed with each other

~ Step 4

Send the kids over to grandparents
Have a glass of wine with strawberries
Compliment each other
Talk about old times when you first met. Believe me that is the most romantic spark that will ignite sexual desire and love